My first year as a Dad! When reality kicks in.
Posted on 13 December 2017
I have always wanted to be a dad and I knew that one day I will have my own little one to carry around on my shoulders. And I couldn’t be happier to finally get that chance! I knew all the basics, the "Need to know” type of things prior to having a baby. However, nothing can prepare you for the reality! Haha… OK, it is not all that bad!
There are plenty of things that you can learn from the books, movies or from the people that already had kids. In my case, I became a step dad way before I became a full dad.
Katie-Lee and Lily came into my life already talking, sleeping well, feeding themselves and were very much toilet trained. So, the fatherhood started very easy. Added bonus, when we have finally welcomed Avalee-Rose to the world, my wife was my go to person for all the advice regarding what to do, when and how. She was like my own private kids’ whisperer or encyclopedia. Still, I needed to learn everything else on my own. And I loved it!
How to stay alive on nearly no sleep?
One of the main jobs as a parent is to keep your little one alive. But how do you do it on no sleep at all?
I got to say, a have never struggled with late night watching TV, so I came trained. So, when it came to looking after our brand-new baby, I decided to take the night shift. For the first 8 months of her life I slept maximum 3-4 hours a night. Yup. Ridiculous! Let’s put it this way. I have mastered the art of sleep walking, micro-sleeping at work and without anybody’s help I became nocturnal! Haha…
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Keep up with your hobbies!
Staying sane is equally important as staying alive! No one wants a tired slob and passed-out-on-the-couch-Dad. You need to keep moving.
You need to stay in shape and look after yourself. I am not talking only about exercising and eating well, which should be on a priority list as well by the way. You need to keep up with your hobbies and be happy with yourself.
My idea of a fun life is to travel with our kids. Whatever it is for you, if it is hiking, cycling, painting or any other sports that you can do with your kids, keep it up! Make sure that nothing stands in the way, not even being tired. Remember that your kids are always watching and learning. If they see you always tired and winging, then they will copy you and annoy you back with it sooner then you know. On the other hand, if you show them your true passions, then they will follow you as well and get encouraged to follow their own passions one day as well!
We are all in this together!
There is no reason why you shouldn’t ask for advice sometimes. Being a dad is simple. All you have to do is to be there for your kids. There are no right or wrong and everyone makes mistakes. However, if you get in a rut, then there are always places like here on DadGear Dads’ advice.
We are all dads here and we are all in this together! If you have any questions, or just want vent, then here is your chance. Ask us anything, or simply enjoy our stories!
I have been a dad for a few years now, but I will always remember the first year. Although I was a zombie most of the time, I wouldn’t change anything. I was there every night that she needed me. I gave her millions of hugs and kisses. I carried her in my arms till they went numb. I laughed and cried with her. I travelled, I painted and I did gazillion other things with her. Everything else, I just rolled with it!
- Andrzej Ejmont, Wanderlust Storytellers
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